Aggression in children is a manifestation of negativeReaction to the actions and actions of others who did not like them. Aggressive reaction is an expression of anger, as well as indignation in verbal form or in the form of physical impact. When reinforcing the aggression of children with mistakes in education, it turns into aggressiveness, as a trait of character. Manifestations of negative reactions often alarm parents, and they ask themselves: "How to remove aggression from a child?".
The cause of aggression in children
The main reasons contributing to the emergence of aggression include:
- Somatic diseases, disruption of the brain;
- problems within the family: quarrels, conflicts between the father and mother, expressed in indifference, lack of joint interests;
- directly aggressive behavior of parents not only at home, but also in society;
- indifference of parents to the affairs, as well as the interests of the baby, his status, success;
- strong emotional attachment to one of the parents, while the second parent acts as an object of aggression;
- the lack of unity in education, as well as its inconsistency;
- inability of the baby to control his actions, low self-esteem;
- Insufficient development of intelligence;
- high degree of excitability;
- Lack of ability to build relationships in society;
- Violent computer games, violence from television screens.
The cause of aggression lies in the physical punishment of parents, as well as when children are given little attention and they try to recapture it with the help of aggressive reactions.
Signs of aggression in children
The manifestation of aggression is expressed in such actions: Calling peers, selecting toys, the desire to hit another peer. Aggressive children often provoke other peers to fight, thereby leading adults out of a state of mental equilibrium. Aggressive children are usually "rusty", which causes a difficulty in communication and a proper approach to them.
Signs of aggression in children: Vengeance, refusal to follow the rules, non-recognition of their mistakes, outbursts of anger at the actions of others, pugnaciousness, waving at close ones, spitting, pinching, using abusive words.
Aggression in children can be hidden if parents suppress it, choosing wrong methods for this.
Where does the child's aggression come from?
Aggression in children almost always appears due to external reasons: lack of desire, family troubles, deprivation of something, experimentation of their behavior on adults.
Aggression in children 2 years old is manifested in bitesAdult or peer. These bites are a way of knowing the world around us. Two-year-olds resort to bites when they can not quickly achieve their goal.
A bite is an attempt to assert one's rights, andAlso the expression of their experiences, failures. Some two-year-olds bite at any threat to self-defense. Individual babies bite to demonstrate their strength. This is exactly what babies do, striving for power over others. Sometimes bites are caused by neurological causes. When you realize what has been provoked by the negative behavior of the baby, you will immediately understand how to teach him to cope with himself in a critical situation. It is important to remember that kids learn everything on the examples of their parents.
Aggression of the mother is very much reflected in the child. The kid very quickly learns such behavior of the mother, and cruel behavior can serve as a prerequisite for neuroses. It is important to understand that the behavior of the baby is a complete mirror image of what he sees in the family.
Aggression in children 3 years old is due to toys. Children bite, spit, jostle, throw various objects, beat others, wither.
Parental attempt to relieve tension by force,Leads to failure, and next time the baby will act even more aggressively. In this case, parents simply need to switch the attention of the baby to another occupation or remove the provoking factor.
Aggression in children 4 years is somewhat reduced,Babies begin to verbally express their desires, but egocentrism does not allow us to accept someone else's point of view. For toddlers there is a perception like this: either everything is bad or good. Children do not tend to plan, think, they need clear guidelines, instructions: what and how to do. Kids 4 years do not understand after watching TV, where reality, and where fantasy, they can not correctly understand the wishes of others who joined their games. Their perception is this: my territory was invaded. Therefore, it is difficult for them to explain that other children are peaceful.
Aggression in a child of 5 years is manifested throughPhysical aggressiveness in boys, and girls more often through verbal attack (nicknames, silence, ignoring), but can resort to an aggressive form of protection of their interests.
Aggression in a child of 6-7 years is manifested in allThe above, the manifestations, as well as stress tension, revenge. The reason is the antisocial environment, lack of love, abandonment of the baby, but despite this, children begin to exercise self-control so as not to express their resentment, fear, displeasure and this happens through aggressive behavior.
Treatment of aggression in children
It happens that unmotivated seizuresAggressiveness provoked by the atmosphere of indulgence, when the kids never know the refusal, just get hysterical, screaming. In this case, you should be patient, since the more difficult the problem, the harder it is to correct for the elimination of unmotivated aggressive seizures. Do not expect that the child will grow up and change. The compulsory rule in communicating with the baby is the constancy of the requirements of adults in all situations, especially when aggression occurs.
What should I do if my child shows aggression? Often aggressive behavior is a reaction to lack of attention, and so the kid tries to interest others with a personal person. The kid quickly learns a lesson that by bad behavior he quickly receives the long-awaited attention. Therefore, parents should take this into account and communicate with the child as much as possible, supporting his positive communication.
How to respond to the aggression of a child? To aggressive behavior can not be treated calmly. If there is a tendency to repeat aggression, then parents should figure out what provokes such outbursts of anger. It is very important to analyze the circumstances of attacks of aggression, to put yourself in the place of the baby, to think what is missing.
Correction of attacks of aggression in children includesConnection of game situations, playing with toy characters, close to realities. As soon as you learn to behave yourself, your baby will immediately change the manner of communication with other children.
How to cope with the aggression of the child? The upbringing of the baby should include the unity of the requirements of both parents and a personal example. Only in this case will there be a correct and harmonious development. By personal example, parents can develop behavioral skills in the baby. The actions and actions of parents, first of all, must meet the requirements for their child. In a family where the child sees a manifestation of aggressive attacks against other members, there is a perception of it as a norm.
Treatment of aggression in children includes various methods:
- Ask the kid to draw his aggression or its cause, and then break the picture;
- Cushioning the pillow, counting to ten;
- switching attention to a game or other occupation;
- in the period of aggressive reactions, adults should use a minimum of words and thus not provoke a negative reaction in children;
- to exclude intimidation and blackmail;
- to become a personal model of tranquility and an example for imitation;
- Sports will help transform aggression in children;
- Special gymnastics, aimed at relaxation to relieve tension;
- Compliance with vitaminized diet.