Relations in the family embrace the relationship of allParticipants of a previously formed small social group united by common life and interests. Love, family, relations between relatives, what can be more meaningful in life ?! However, often relationships in married couples are quite unfavorable. To create strong family ties and strong relationships, a comfortable microclimate, all members of the established group need to move in one direction.
Often, problem aspects and conflictThe situations that arise in the relations of partners in marriage arise because of the inability to form a healthy connection, because no one has taught them how to competently build healthy relationships, get out of conflicts, and properly interact. Also, the moral climate and the psychological atmosphere in family relations, the social activity of the family and the structure are dependent not so much on the spouses themselves and on general patterns as on the specific circumstances that influenced the birth of the family and its further functioning.
Family and Family Relationships
Among the circumstances that affectThe family's vital activity and favorable relations among its members are influenced by the level of education of spouses and the degree of their cultural status, financial status, grafted traditions and life guides, residence, social status, moral beliefs. The desire of the family to unite and consolidate, to constructively resolve conflict situations, to move in one direction, determines the specificity of family relationships.
Families can be, depending on the numberMembers, large and small. Today in modern society, the norm is more likely to be small than a large family, although not in all countries. A small family usually consists of spouses and one or a maximum of two children. The peculiar core of each family are the spouses and their children. Often with them live together and their parents. Each participant of family relations is in stable interaction with each other and plays a specific role in the family, worries about satisfying the interests of society, the needs of each member individually or the family as a whole. The personal qualitative characteristics of the spouses, the specificity of their relationships determine the appearance of the family and the direction of the realization of the functions inherent in it.
Communicative interaction providesCoherence and purposefulness of the partners' efforts in order to achieve important for the family priorities, to meet the individual needs of the subjects in a spiritual affinity with the loved one. In the process of communicative interaction, partners exchange confidential and important information only for them, while empathizing with each other, which leads to a better understanding of each other, enriching intellectually and spiritually. Intimate communication with partners is inseparably linked with the spiritual.
The family is considered to be a socio-economicEducation, within which joint life and budget is conducted, the acquisition or production and consumption of various types of goods and services takes place. For example, meeting the need for clothing. This function of the family is called economic. Its implementation is the task, first of all, of the spouses. A deep mastery of professional knowledge and skills of the couple will fully realize this function.
Another of the key functions of the community cell is the organization of cultural leisure. A typical feature of leisure is a special atmosphere of warmth and emotionality, allowing
Completely open and be sincere.
An important role is played by the educational function of the institution of the family. After all, it comes into the world, and then the children are brought up.
The listed functions, implemented by the family,Are extremely important and indispensable. A social group, organized into a family, should show equal concern for all its members - both senior and younger.
They also distinguish the representative function of the family, which implies actions in the interests and on behalf of the family in contact with friends, neighbors, various social institutions.
The marriage union will function better only in cases of wide interaction of spouses.
The composition of functions in a particular family can beDiverse. It depends on the degree of formation and level of development of the family, the circumstances of its existence. Failure to fulfill certain functions by the family may not affect the strength of the union only on condition that both spouses have lost interest in a particular type of activity. If only one partner lost interest, and the desire of the second to work together in some area of the family's functioning will not find the right response, a constant source of conflict will appear.
Families, like family relationships, can be diverse and depend on many different factors. Below are the types of families and family relationships that are currently observed in society.
The most democratic type of family relationsIs considered a partner way of building relationships. In such a family, relations are built on trust, equality and constructive communication. In the partner family, it does not matter who earns more, the budget will still be shared. Problems and conflict situations are resolved through discussion and joint search for optimal ways of getting out of the situation. The main difference of such a family is a joyful atmosphere and a healthy environment in the family.
The next, no less common typeRelations in marriage, is considered a patriarchal type, in which the wife, children obey the man (husband). The spouse is the head of the family. He is fully responsible for the members of the group and independently takes all decisions. The role of women in such a family is reduced either to the management of domestic life and the upbringing of the child, or to work, but in combination with the management of everyday life and caring for the child. The typology of family relations also contains a category called a traditional family, which is distinguished by maintaining close ties with relatives up to the "seventh tribe" and subordination to the elders in the family. The foundation of the traditional family is the inviolable laws of the fortress of relations, responsibility and nepotism. In such families, most often, partners enter into a marriage union once. Traditional families do not accept divorce. The advantage of creating such a family is mutual understanding and a clear delineation of responsibilities between all members of the group.
Matriarchal type of family relations alsoToday is quite a frequent occurrence. With this type of relationship, either the woman earns more than a man, which has the effect of influencing him, or she is an activist who loves to take care of her children, her budget, repairs, or any other family problems; All that is in time. Often a man allows his wife to dominate the family because of his own natural laziness, unwillingness or inability to solve domestic problems. Also there are families in which the wife fully provides for the family, so the man assumes the responsibilities of the housewife.
Today, one more type of familyA relationship that is new to society - a modern family. This type of relationship originated in the second half of the 19th century in European countries and spread throughout the world for a hundred years. It is characterized by the prevalence in the relationship of individual desires over the general. In such families, personal life becomes more important, more important than the family life. In a modern family, the interests of partners can be completely different, and the intimate aspect of marriage prevails over others. Children in such family unions become objects of excessive attachment of parents. The desperate desire of spouses in modern families to give their own children everything is a negative feature of such relationships. After all, this prevents the children from cultivating themselves, it is not easy for them to get on their feet, since they are freed by parents from the need to obtain something by their own labor, are protected from any difficulties.
Types of families and family relationships can be all kinds, but in every single marriage, there are positive aspects and negative features.
Attitude towards family and parents
Characteristics of relationships in the family is determinedSeveral factors that determine the quality of relations between relatives. These factors include: the adaptation of spouses, their dependence on their parents, the type of family rituals and the nature of family rites, dependence on relatives of the spouse, behavior in resolving conflicts with relatives on one or the other side, interpersonal models for establishing links.
There is a close relationship that unitesAdaptation of spouses and adaptability to relatives on one or the other side. Some people are satisfied that they have excluded a new family from their own family life or have themselves fenced off from them, while others will do everything possible to strengthen ties with their new relatives and build interdependent relationships. An effective level of interaction can also be different for a married couple at different stages of family life.
Unfortunately, it often happens that the attitude towardsThe kid in the family outshines all feelings for parents. But earlier, for each individual in childhood, parents played the most important role. They were the most expensive, loved ones and loved ones. But as you enter adulthood, especially after the birth of children, close relationships with parents are lost. Although this does not mean that parents have become less affectionate for grown up children, or they have become less loved, but less time is spent with each meeting for joint conduct, and endless problems, constant conflicts and misunderstandings can only exacerbate the situation.
Good relationships in the family are difficult to build. After all, children and parents have different views, beliefs, preferences and tastes. As a result of various trifles, conflicts and misunderstandings are emerging.
In order to stay with my parentsFormer, you need to try to understand what has become not so, what has changed. You should try to please your parents more often, give them, even small ones, but gifts and not only for great holidays. After all, parents spoiled children with gifts not only on holidays, but somehow when children grow up, they forget about all the joyful moments that their parents gave them, move away from them, do not consider their opinion.
Good relations in the family to parents will not beAre possible without communication. You need to talk with your parents without regretting it. If adult "children" are irritated by constant parental reproaches and unsettling advice, then you should simply ask them about the details of life at the age at which their adult children are now. All people make mistakes, and all parents try to protect their children, regardless of their age, from any mistakes. Therefore, one should not disregard the advice of parents or judge them strictly. It is necessary to give parents the opportunity to take care of the grown up children.
Social relations in the family
The most complex social education todayIs considered family. It is based on a holistic, family-wide interaction of the community of individuals who are bound by marriage and carry out the reproduction of offspring, the succession of family generations, the socialization of children.
The family is both a socialInstitute and some small group. Relatively invariable form or stable form of social practice, through which social life is created and organized, the stability of interrelations and relationships in the boundaries of social formation of society is guaranteed, called the social institution. In sociology, a small group means a small social group of individuals whose members are united by joint activities and establish personal communications among themselves. This is the foundation on which emotional relations in the family are born, the basis for the formation of special group orientations, values, rules and norms of behavior.
Family as a public institutionPurposeful to meet the most important human need for reproduction of the family. And as a small group, it is the foundation on which the formation of the personality takes place, plays an essential role in personal development, socialization. The family as a small social collective is a kind of conductor of rules of conduct, values, moral and spiritual norms prevailing in society.
There are the following types of family ties,Depending on the characteristics of the marriage, the characteristics of parental roles and kinship: monogamous and polygamous marriages, patrilineal and matrilineal unions, patriarchal and matriarchal marriages, homogeneous and heterogeneous marriages.
Monogamous conjugal ties are a marriage unionTwo people: a female representative and a representative of the strong half of humanity. Polygamous marriage is a conjugal union of one man with several spouses or one feminine with several men. In patrilineal marriages inheritance of social status, property, surname takes place on the paternal line, and in matrilineal families - is conducted by the mother. In patriarchal marriages, the head of the family is the husband, and in matriarchal families the highest authority is the wife. In homogeneous marriages, spouses are natives of one social group, and in a heterogeneous family alliance, the husband and wife come from different social classes, castes, groups, classes.
Today, the most widespread in the current urbanized cities are the so-called nuclear marriages, in which the family consists of parents and children, in other words - from two generations.
Social relations in a family union are divided into formal relations, i.e. Conventional, and informal relations; Interpersonal.
Sustainable social relations, links betweenParticipants in family relations, close relatives, the rest of relatives, friends have a positive sustainable impact on the state of mind and health.
Child-parent relations in the family
Healthy child-parent relationships in the familyContain two components. Love is the first component. Attitudes towards the child in the family should be based, first of all, on love for him, and not on control and educational methods of influence. The child needs to feel that mom and dad feel love for him just because he exists, and not for his behavior, actions or good grades. The love of parents is the key to the fact that the baby will grow up with a normal level of self-esteem, a feeling
And trust in the world around us. Children who are simply loved, accept themselves exactly as they really are, which is of great importance in all his later life. After all, if you enter adulthood, considering your personality "unworthy" or "bad", the chances of a decent and successful life are reduced to zero.
The second component of the child-parent relationshipIs freedom of choice. Giving her to a child is often much more difficult than loving. Parents are difficult, and sometimes very scary, to let the kid make his own choice. Since they are always sure that they know better what to do, and the child wants to do in his own way only out of pure obstinacy. However, it is necessary to distinguish the freedom of choice from lack of control and permissiveness. Even if the baby feels love, excessive control by the father and mother leads to the risk of developing a variety of forms of dependencies. Reckless parental love, strengthened by total control is a rattling mixture. This "cocktail" strangles and prevents breathing. To a similar hyperope are women with increased anxiety, superabundance. They control every step of the child, every new hobby. As a result, the baby can grow either fragile or vulnerable, unable to resist any life difficulties or simply try to avoid such love by any means. The nature of relations in the family, based on total control, as claimed by most psychologists, causes the frequent escape of children from reality into "chemical dependence", mainly in the narcotic.
Control, multiplied by the dislike of parents, is capable of destroying the child's personality, which as a result can lead to
Excessive freedom granted to a child inJoining with dislike provides an opportunity for the formation of a child's personality, but at the same time leads to a greater risk of physical trauma. Such relationships are most often observed in dysfunctional families, such as families of alcoholics or drug addicts. In such family unions, children receive almost the absolute freedom of choice, since they, in principle, are not needed by anyone. In such relationships, children have a high probability of dying, but along with this, children have the opportunity to grow up as an independent, purposeful person.
With the purpose of educational measures in family relationsParents can refer to various methods of influence, such as encouraging or punishing the child, the desire to demonstrate patterns of behavior by example. The praise of parents will be more effective if the child is with them in warm friendly relations, and, conversely, if the relationship between participants in the seed process is cold and indifferent, then praise will not bear virtually no incentive for the baby. Thanks to the use of incentive methods of upbringing, the development of the baby as a person can either be accelerated and made more successful, or slowed down. Do not abuse the punishment in the process of education. It should be used only on condition that the child's behavior can not be changed in any other way. If there is a need for punishment to increase the educational response, the punishment must follow immediately after the misconduct. Do not abuse very severe penalties, as they can cause the baby
And anger. Children, who are often shouted and constantly punished, become emotionally indifferent, find an increased
The psychology of relations in the family boils down to the fact thatEverything happening to the child is entirely the merit of his parents. Therefore, parents should learn that after the birth of the child, they have the opportunity to either help the child in the processes of socialization, the formation of personality, training, etc., or, on the contrary, to hinder. Refusal to participate in the upbringing of children is also a kind of contribution to his future. But it will be positive or bad, time will tell.
Interpersonal relationships in the family
Achieve coherence and harmony in marriedRelations is not easy. The most important period in the family life of partners is considered to be the initial period, when young people first encounter not with love problems, but with family-household problems. The stage of grinding in the characters, reconciling views on life, establishing a family way of life is a very complex and important stage in the relationship that can cause both ups and downs of the honeymoon. This period is full of the most ambiguous experiences. This stage of conjugal life is remembered by the young for a lifetime, and later affects the fate of the family and spouses. After all, in relationships, each of the spouses opens the world not only to their spouse, but also reveals something new in itself.
The basis of healthy family relationships should beFeeling of love, i. The highest level of emotionally positive attitude of an individual to an individual. Also known is the phenomenal selectivity in choosing a companion in relationships built on love.
The psychology of relations in the family in the real life of the subjects is much richer, more diverse and more complex than what appears to people before entering into marital relations.
The problem of relationships between subjects,Married, is relevant and one of the fundamental themes in family psychotherapeutic practice. In particular, this applies to young families, created recently, where the spouses are just learning to live together. This stage of family life is considered a kind of grinding and indicator, as their joint marital life will develop in the future. The period of grinding is characterized by a lot of problems in the interpersonal relations of partners.
Basically, protracted conflicts, grievances, quarrelsAt the beginning, joint management of the economy. At this stage, you need to learn how to build a common life and with understanding, patience refers to the habits of the other. It is with the ability to find a common language in the process of building a common life connected with many problems. After all, before, even before the wedding, the partners together spent all their free time and enjoyed it. They forgave each other small shortcomings of each other, such as impracticality, some forgetfulness, absent-mindedness, etc. Previously, these qualities were perceived as a bit of a funny, innocuous and cute character traits. Now it causes irritation and begins to be compared with unreliability.
Difficulties in understanding and interpersonalRelations between spouses are often inextricably linked with the difference in temperaments. Often problems in interpersonal interaction cause the impact of biological rhythms of spouses. Also, the intimate life of a young family and its spiritual comfort depend on the fluctuations in the biological rhythms of partners.
Emotional relations in the family representIs the most important integrating mechanism, thanks to which the participants of family relations feel themselves as one integrity and feel the warmth, support from each other. Relief, based on love and mutual sympathy, contributes to the reduction of frustrating experiences.
As a rule, emotional relations in the familyConsistently go through five stages. The first stage is characterized by a deep and passionate sense of the individual's love, when the spouse (a) takes all the attention while painting the perception of the partner's reality in rainbow colors. At the second stage, there is some cooling, which manifests itself in the fact that the image of the spouse rises in consciousness less often in his absence, but when he meets with him there is a strong tide of positive emotions, a feeling of tenderness and a feeling of love. The third stage is characterized by the continuation of cooling in emotional relationships. In the absence of a spouse, the partner experiences some psychological discomfort, however, when meeting him, tenderness and a feeling of love do not break out. To spark a tender relationship and love, now a kind of incentive is needed - the partner must do something pleasant to prove his love. At this stage, there is an addiction. If at this stage we do not find mutual understanding and do not reduce the intensity of interpersonal communications, it will go to the fourth stage, which is characterized by unconscious annoyance caused by the presence of the spouse. In the fourth stage, habits or features of character, appearance are not perceived as minor flaws, but as causes for conflicts. In the fifth stage, the individual is completely dominated by a negative attitude. It is characterized by the fact that the spouses have already forgotten all the pleasant deeds and words, and all the bad things are brought to the fore. Partners come to a misunderstanding for what they live together. This period is the most difficult in interpersonal relationships.
Spouses' relations in the family
As a rule, the nature of relations in the family,The cohesion of its members or the disintegration of the family, are dependent on a set of personal qualities of partners, moral principles they profess, worldview beliefs and attitudes. When the ideological beliefs or outlooks of the spouses are incompatible, the family disintegrates. The difference between ideologies determines the disparity of needs, goals, goals, ideals, dreams, and therefore leads to a difference in actions, behavior, the result of which will necessarily be the incompatibility of spouses and even hostility. The true rapprochement between a man and a woman who adhere to different worldviews is possible only if both partners or one of them refuses from their original positions.
Essential value for family relationsPossess the moral qualities of the spouses, such as tolerance, the ability to understand, attentiveness, kindness, a sense of tact, compassion, etc. All these qualities make the subject more "fit" for living together in a marriage union. Conversely, qualities such as causeless anger, excessive resentment, capriciousness, arrogance, selfishness make people incapable of long-term relationships and not suitable for family life.
Also, individuals entering into a marriage union shouldTo look in one direction, to have similar views on norms of morality and values, such as the position of a man and the position of a woman in marriage, equality between the sexes, mutual respect, justice, responsibility and duty to the family, society. Since any confrontation between each other in this regard will only help undermine the foundation of relations.
A rather important orienting quality of personalityIs the ability to make and execute decisions. If the individual does not have this quality, then the worldview, life goals and attitudes are made purely declarative and rather shaky, and the personality of the subject is unreliable and infantile. The behavior of such an individual is characterized by impulsiveness and unpredictability, as a result of which long-term cooperation with him becomes impossible.
Great value for the person possesses alsoThe assimilation of legal norms and moral guidelines governing relations in family life, the role of spouse, wife, father and mother. The result of the assimilation of such norms will be the formation of a sense of duty, which, together with the will and the feeling of love, pushes the partners, their parents and other participants of family relations precisely and strictly to fulfill their duties.
Speaking about how to establish relationships in the family,Strengthen its internal relations, improve relations between partners, and the intimate relations of the spouses should not be underestimated. The main thing in the physical relationship of the spouses is that intimacy should satisfy both spouses.
Also, to ensure the cohesion of participantsFamily relationships, their ability to improve their economic activities is very important. Partners should not be afraid and avoid everyday life. Joint management of the economy will only rally the spouses, if not avoid it.
Love, family, relationships of individuals in the family are the fundamental factor that worries everyone, since in many respects the degree of success and satisfaction with life depends on it.
Relationships in a young family
Harmonious union of two individuals, consistencyEmotional reactions in a young family are created gradually. The development of harmony and mutual understanding depends on the prospect of the union and further happy family relations. That is why a special emphasis should be made at the initial stage of the formation of the family union, since it is at this stage that the psychological compatibility of two absolutely different people is being established. This is the foundation of the multi-storey structure of the marriage relations. On how much such a foundation will prove to be strong, the durability of the whole structure of family life depends.
The family is ideally the closest people in the world,Ready always to support each other and come to the rescue, always in a difficult moment are near. However, even between native people there are conflicts or misunderstandings.
Perhaps today, the question is how to establish relations inFamily, is considered one of the central and most pressing issues. An effective method of avoiding misunderstandings in family relationships is the ability to find mutual understanding in any situation with their relatives. Therefore, on how diplomatically an individual is able to behave in various conflict and ordinary life situations, the life together will be so cloudless. During the development of family relations and the maturation of the family itself, it has its own unique atmosphere. Unfortunately, today it is quite common to meet families where the spirit of alienation and the atmosphere of misunderstanding between households are dominant. The results of such intra-family relationships can be completely different, from the breakdown of the family to the psychosocial problems of children.
It is natural to live absolutely without conflictsIs impossible. We must understand that conflicts are different. In a family life, destructive conflicts should be avoided. It must be remembered that each individual has pluses and minuses, so one should learn to forgive and make concessions.
Healthy relationships in the family of the newlyweds will help to avoid the collapse of the family. All arising problems should be discussed, try to find a joint solution, and not to shy away.
Unfortunately, in our time, graduallyThe value of relations in the family is lost. That this does not happen to individuals marrying, one must be aware of the reasons that lead them to conclude a family union. If both spouses love, respect each other and understand that if they are willing to make concessions to each other and have a common interest, then the relationship in the young family will be favorable.
Characteristics of relations in the family of newlyweds is conditioned by the psychological compatibility of partners, the ability to create an optimal moral microclimate in relations.
The problem of relations in the family
In our time, one of the fundamental problems of the modern family is a sharp decline in the status of the family as a social institution of society, a decrease in its importance of the hierarchy of value orientations.
It is the solution of family problems that usuallyPeople in the first place. Among the most common categories of problems in family life, there are conflicts that arise between partners, parents and children, sons and daughters. The value of relations in the family should be the highest value of individuals forming the social cell of society.
Love, psychological compatibility, spiritualHarmony and communicative interaction of parents are considered one of the main factors preventing protracted conflicts, the emotional basis of raising a child in the family. In relationships where the spouses are treated with love for each other, the relationship between children in the family will be friendly and benevolent, based on love and a sense of belonging to the same family.
At the very beginning of family life the first problem,Arising before the newlyweds, becomes the division of responsibilities, which in any case have to be fulfilled. Often the partners differ in the idea of who should be engaged in domestic duties, as a result of which conflicts arise on this basis.
The next problem situation is the development of family values and moral guidelines from those that are really important for each of the partners.
In the process of resolving family conflicts, the partner is recognized on the new side, the discovery of such traits of his character that previously were not noticeable.
Also after the birth of a toddler's familyLife is threatened by conflicts and problems. After all, when a woman, in addition to the role of the wife, acquires the role of the mother, her attention to her husband is switched to the baby, which is very much experienced by men.
Conflict or severely negative relationship betweenChildren in the family also provoke quarrels between spouses who do not understand that the reason for the cool attitude among children among themselves is often the parents themselves.