Samoedstvo is a habit of introspection andSelf-criticism. Samoyedness is called anger and discontent, addressed to one's own person. It is characterized by the presence of several forms of manifestation, namely: soft, hard and dreary. Soft includes the habit of stigmatizing one's self, hard - self-blaming and self-flagellation, dreary - the habit of dramatizing mistakes and circling joyless thoughts of the same content. Psychology samoyedstva sometimes similar to the mechanism of child protection. Children believe that if they abuse themselves, they will free their own candidacy from punishment on the part of a close adult environment.
How to get rid of samoyedstva
Any healthy individual is inherent in analyzingOwn behavior, deeds, thoughts or words. Such actions are the norm, but sometimes the thoughts about the correctness of the chosen solution, the correctness of the abandoned phrases and the performed actions become a real torture for the consciousness, as a result of which
Ceases to assess himself adequately, begins to feel his own weakness and think about his own failure.
Samoyedstvo - synonyms. It is believed that the synonym of the concept describedIs self-criticism. And since the synonyms are words close in lexical meaning, most people are sure that practicing samoyedstvo, they are engaged in healthy self-criticism, which consists in self-searching for blunders, evaluating their own deeds and the results of thinking. The availability of adequate self-criticism is considered the main condition for the mental health of the individual. A healthy criticism of one's own personality is necessary for everyone, since it allows one to adequately assess oneself and correctly treat oneself. But sometimes self-criticism goes beyond the bounds of the reasonable, thereby interfering with the normal existence. Excessive criticism of one's own person is considered by most experts as a sign of ill health.
Many individuals are constantly tormented by criticismOwn "I". Scolding themselves, they believe that they are acting in the right direction, since they look at the person objectively and honestly in assessing their actions. Their main mistake lies in the substitution of concepts. Very often, a person is engaged in samoyedstvom, while believing that he is practicing self-criticism. In other words, he takes self-criticism for adequate self-criticism.
The above describes the possibility of understanding thatMeans samoyedstvo. This term applies to an individual who abuses self-criticism, which is always dissatisfied with his own actions, appearance and himself as a whole. Constant dissatisfaction with his person leads to
. Self-criticism, however, helps to look at oneself and the circumstances from the outside, allows you to recognize and understand mistakes, and therefore to correct them.
Samoedhestvo is a personal self-incrimination,Which does not take into account the circumstances, does not contain an analysis of the situation, and as such does not imply the making of appropriate conclusions with subsequent changes in behavioral patterns. This term implies a negative habit that takes energy, deprives sleep and worsens health. In other words, samoyedstvo is the so-called destruction of the soul and body of the individual.
It turns out that samoyedstvo synonyms - thisSelf-flagellation, self-destruction, self-destruction, and not an analysis of one's own actions. Therefore, according to most psychologists, it is incorrect to understand samoyedstvo as self-criticism, at least constructive.
What does samoedstvo mean? What is the difference between it and self-criticism? Self-criticism is the ability of the individual to look detached to his own actions and personality, to notice and acknowledge missteps, thereby giving himself the opportunity to correct them. In case of self-abuse, the subject incriminates himself with erroneous actions, not taking into account the circumstances, real conditions. In other words, his assessments are divorced from reality, and consequently, from adequacy. Thus, samoyedstvo - this is an unproductive dissatisfaction with yourself, anger at yourself for the committed, voluntarily or involuntarily misses.
How to stop samoyedstvo? In the first turn, it is necessary to reconcile withThe lack of ideals, therefore do not need to strive for them. Naturally, there is always room to grow. But constant discussions about this will lead only to the inadequacy of one's own existence, to the absence in life of positive, joy, satisfaction. Therefore, it is recommended to try to stop seeing the world in gray. After all, the fullness of the glass depends solely on the perception of the beholder. Positive personalities see a half full glass. Semi-empty dishes are correspondingly seen by pessimists, that is, people who are negatively inclined towards life. You need to learn to evaluate the environment from the positive. In any circumstances, even with the worst "scenario," you can always find at least a fraction of the positive. In addition, it should be borne in mind that the perception of the situation as bad is a subjective opinion of the individual who assesses it. You should also learn how to encourage yourself. For example, you can start praising yourself for every positive thought.
We must allow ourselves to have shortcomings, because among people there are no ideal individuals. In addition, shortcomings are a stepping stone to
, An occasion to do self-development. For example, an individual "eats" himself for being overweight, while recovering more and more every day, instead of going in for sports, develop a daily diet for himself. In other words, a defect is something that can always be corrected or transformed into dignity. For example, to call yourself not wasteful, but generous, not miser, but thrifty, not cowardly, but cautious, etc.
How not to engage in self-deception? Very simple! You just need to drive yourself boredom and longing. It is recommended to find an interesting hobby for yourself or an entertaining lesson so that there is simply no time left for samudstva and negativity. After all, the psychology of self-esteem is such that when the brain "has nothing to do", it begins to produce "bad" thoughts, self-pity, self-abasement, etc. For example, "no one likes me, because I'm a loser."
How to stop self-dealing
Very often a person engages in samoyedstvo, notRealizing that thereby destroying his own life, leveling all his successes, destroying even the hope for a happy future. Living with destructive self-criticism and constant self-flagellation is quite difficult, but it's even harder to be a Samoyed. People prone to excessive self-incrimination without analyzing situations and their own actions, constantly criticize themselves, blame their person for all failures, misses, thereby lowering self-esteem. Errors need to be corrected, and to be tormented by a sense of guilt is a senseless occupation, not bringing not only benefits, but also resulting in a violation of health.
In some individuals, self-esteem comes toFunny, if it were not so ridiculous and sad. There is a category of samoyeds, which mercilessly "gnaws" from within, simply finding yourself in an absurd situation. For example, if you fall during the ice in the presence of a large number of people, or pronounced some responsible pun on a responsible performance, due to the fact that the language "spit" or spilled a cocktail at a corporate party. For this category of Samoyed individuals, the most terrible is laughter behind one's own back. Such people who are looking for an answer to the question of how to stop samoyedstvo, a great sense of humor. Once in an absurdly ridiculous situation, one should not sharply take criticism of oneself and curse, it will be more effective to laugh at oneself together with everyone. After all, everyone can fall or say absurdity. For this, it is not necessary to have "unique" features or defects.
Samoedstvo is based on a sense of guilt,Based on patterns and stereotypes that come from childhood, or taken from real life examples, heard from the media, read in books, magazines and the Internet.
People who "practice" unhealthy self-criticism often forget about the uniqueness of their own personality, appearance and character traits.
So, how not to engage in samoyedstvom? In the first turn, it is recommended to realize that all standards and patterns are only far-fetched norms of behavior of each individual. Therefore, we need to stop looking at the opinion of the society, naturally, within the framework of the reasonable, because whatever one may say, one must be considered with the position of one's boss. But pay attention to the views of the environment about appearance, manner of dressing, preferences in literature or music, etc. Better not worth it. Is it possible to change the opinion of society by choosing a mentally healthy individual to listen to rock ?!
It is necessary to recognize the right to beA personality unlike anybody, to be a unique person with a personal set of qualities and characteristics. To this end, it is necessary to accept one's own person as it really is, with all the set of shortcomings and positive features. If there are shortcomings with which it is impossible to reconcile, then it is necessary to correct them.
Most people cling to someone's passingAbandoned not very pleasant phrases about themselves or about their behavior, due to the fact that inside they blame themselves for these shortcomings. The reactions of individuals are peculiar indicators of "painful places" inside. It is on such "painful places" that you need to pay attention. If an individual sincerely allows himself to be himself, then he is not able to offend not one unflattering comment. Since there are no doubts inside about the inconsistency of oneself with a certain pattern.
However, one should not confuse samoyedstvo with honesty inRespect to yourself and the ability to impartially reward yourself with negative definitions for errors and stupidity committed if such behavior helps to act the next time more accurately. In other words, samoyedstvo is all that can not help, is not constructive.
Consequences of non-constructive self-flagellationAre rather sad. Unhealthy self-criticism blocks positive emotions, forcing an individual, invariably to remain in a dissatisfied state, caused by dissatisfaction with one's own appearance, life, situation. Samoydom "steals" time, "takes away" sleep and "steals" peace of mind.
Man, convincing himself of the impossibility of changing anything, signing with helplessness, thereby depriving himself of the opportunity to reveal his own potential, to discover hidden talents and abilities.
Samoedstvo as it were "turns off" the rationalIntellectual activity. Personality, accustomed to self-flagellation and destructive self-criticism, "gets stuck" at the level of emotional anxiety, which prevents finding a way out of the situation.
In addition, a person who is constantly displeased with himselfIs a sad sight. He does not cause positive and sympathy from the environment, as a result of which he does not expect success in professional work, there will be no career growth, social and vital success. A person who does not love himself, is difficult to love others.
Excessive guilt and destructive feelingSelf-criticism can turn a successful individual into a "victim of manipulation", since a skilled "puppeteer" will be fairly easy to control the "lover" of self-flagellation. Because of this, the Samoyed will have to live not his own life, but someone else's.
Thus, excessive self-criticism leads toPhysical exhaustion, generates energy and psychological exhaustion of the individual. Change and adjust the current situation can be, by abandoning the unhealthy habit of self-samoydom, self-interest and self-flagellation. To overcome samoedstvo you need to learn how to react to your own mistakes and adequately assess the errors.